A Change in Plans

When I chose the field of marriage and family studies, I planned to be a marriage and family therapist. This week in class, I considered becoming a premarital counselor, to focus on prevention instead of recovery.

Getting married, for many, can be a change of plans.

Things to consider:

Certain things should definitely be talked about and considered before making the decision to marry, including various expectations. Consider present habits and lifestyles, problems, goals, desires, children, money, sexuality, faith.

One of the most important things to remember throughout life and marriage is that priority #1 always needs to be God. God is the only one that we can always rely on and will never fail us. Think about when challenges arise in your relationship. If you have faith in God, you will turn to him for answers, and you will find them. If your spouse doesn't have faith in God, he or she will seek worldly remedies. This could cause serious conflict.

It is also important to realize that some problems, including pornography addiction, get worse in marriage. Many of the problems married couples experience were present even before they got married. Difficulties in relationships and individuals before marriage seem to remain after the wedding, in many circumstances.