At home, at work, at play.

We read an article or two about women in the home and at work.

I just say, everyone do what leads your soul to goodness!

There are no absolutes!! You just need to be true to yourself, figure out what you want and find out what you need in this life experience.

I wish people would stop asking, Are you in school? Are you working? ... I would rather them ask me what my goals are and what I am doing to achieve them.

There are so many opinions floating around, and I am learning that no matter what topic is out there in the universe, someone has an opinion about it. And people will never stop telling you what they think, what is right, what is wrong. Find out for yourself. Create some space for yourself to understand and resonate with certain truths and how to apply them.

Seek goodness and you will find.

Talk Openly and Honestly

Honest, open communication is necessary for a healthy relationship.

Brother Williams told us a story about him and his wife. Over a month period or so, they had three experiences where she rolled her eyes after he said something. This really hurt him. He communicated this to her and she told him that when she rolls her eyes like that, she is trying not to cry. It didn't have anything to do with offending her husband. He assumed what was meant by the rolling of her eyes.

We must not make assumptions.

There are some real dangers in assuming the intentions of another based on certain behaviors. The best way to clear up misunderstanding is to ask questions and seek answers.

Identify

In class on Wednesday, Brother Williams made a great point.

People often make mistakes when trying to understand, "Who I am".

He said that he never says, "She is gay," or "He is gay." You may hear him say however, "She identifies herself as gay."

When I am feeling angry, I should say, "I am feeling angry," not, "I am angry." Because, I am not my feelings, nor am I my thoughts. My true self is Light. My true self is not my mistakes, nor am I my temptations.

A Change in Plans

When I chose the field of marriage and family studies, I planned to be a marriage and family therapist. This week in class, I considered becoming a premarital counselor, to focus on prevention instead of recovery.

Getting married, for many, can be a change of plans.

Things to consider:

Certain things should definitely be talked about and considered before making the decision to marry, including various expectations. Consider present habits and lifestyles, problems, goals, desires, children, money, sexuality, faith.

One of the most important things to remember throughout life and marriage is that priority #1 always needs to be God. God is the only one that we can always rely on and will never fail us. Think about when challenges arise in your relationship. If you have faith in God, you will turn to him for answers, and you will find them. If your spouse doesn't have faith in God, he or she will seek worldly remedies. This could cause serious conflict.

It is also important to realize that some problems, including pornography addiction, get worse in marriage. Many of the problems married couples experience were present even before they got married. Difficulties in relationships and individuals before marriage seem to remain after the wedding, in many circumstances.